My Girlfriend Is 15 & I’m 21. So What?!
February 11, 2009 by Kip
Filed under Best Of KipTip, Dear Kip
[ My Girlfriend Is 15 And I'm 21. So What?! ]
Dear Kip,
I’m a 21 year old guy and I have a 15 year old girlfriend. I don’t have any plans on marrying her, I just enjoy having girlfriends. Most of my past girlfriends have been that same age. Last year I dated a 19 year old and I didn’t like it. She was too serious and that’s not what I want in a girl. My cousin is giving me a hard time that I have a 15 year old girlfriend. There’s only a 6 years difference between our age and I know people that married and were 10 years apart in age. I see no problem with that. Who is wrong here? I’m tired of hearing it from him and I want him to take me seriously. Age is not important in my book, personality and looks are!
- BEST FRESH
Dear BEST FRESH,
Are you some kind of freak or pervert?! You need to get arrested! That 19 year old wasn’t too serious, it’s you. You, just you, and only you. Take a hint; people your age are more serious than you are. 21 isn’t the time to be running around with an equally (im)mature 15 year old. That was normal – 6 years ago. It’s time to move on, bigger dreams, smarter girls, older girls, and… You get the picture.
When something is freakish and socially unaccepted/looked down upon, there is reason to believe that your problem (yes, it’s a problem) is more than just your liking of younger girls. This problem is probably the result of being chronic self-conscious; you not liking something about yourself. You need to accept yourself the way you are.
The 15 year old girl is just an illusion. She is going to mature and move on to younger and better guys. She is not your first “young girlfriend” but I hope your last. This pattern can only be stopped by you. Your girlfriends body and mind is going through massive hormonal changes. She is going to change physically and mentally. Things and reasons why you like her are probably going to disappear or become less.
Stop wasting your time with girls and get a woman! Maybe women are not your thing?
- How about getting a bunch of dogs? They’re pretty loyal and live long.
- How about finding the cure for cancer? The current leading cancer researchers have their own families and they are probably slowing them down in research.
- How about raising show chickens? Free eggs and the chickens look pretty.
- How about moving in the middle nowhere, building a cabin, and living alone? Sounds like a lifetime of adventures!
Or…
- How about not dating girls 6 years younger than you? You can find a cool girl your age, marry her, and spend the rest of your lives together.
It’s your choice, but I’m stilling calling the cops.
PS: You’re wrong.
- Kip
Um,
Theres really nothing wrong dating someone 6 years younger, except at your age. If you were 30 and she was 24, than your both adults and theres nothing wrong there, evem though, i would still think something isnt right there.
But, your 21 and shes only 15. Your a adult and shes just a child. Do you get it? Go find someone your own age… Not a child.
It’s funny, thirty years ago this was normal, and acceptable, especially in small town America. What has happened? Are you so obsessed with a woman’s age that it is what makes her a woman or not? What is the witch hunt for? Some sort of justification or the quenching of neo words that dominate a social standard that is run by fearless ‘sin mongerers’ stripping people of what they want? FIrst it was cannibis, then homosexuality, now younger lovers… A woman is a woman when she appeals to the male crowd, pedophelia is defined as attraction to children for their child-like qualities. If you are attracted to her as a woman, then you are in ever right entitled to your feelings. There is no shame in that, there is shame however in branishing and portraying such ideals as evil or unjust for the simple reason of lack of appreciation and understanding.
30 years ago it was accepted? hmmm I wonder why? But I bet thirty years ago it wasn't accepted for a 21 year old woman to date a 15 year old guy. Am I right? mhhmmmm. thought so……. this guy is obviously a perv. This will not change when he is 30 or 40, he'll still want to date 15 year old girls. FREAK
This guy probably feels he has to date little girls because his penis so friggin small. Or he still has the mentality of a child. Maybe he’s retarded.
my ex who’s also 21 currently has a 15 year old girlfriend too..i think it’s because he wants to be the dominant one in the relationship or he’snot mature enough to handle relationships with women his age..i think you should try to re asses your self…if you really love her than think of the harm that you are doing to her…you are corrupting her…if your love is real than you go back to her like 5 years from now and then you can be together…as of the moment she’s got lots of things to be concerned about like studies and flirting with guys her age
Oh my! I almost peed my pants when I read Micheals comment. Friggin hilarious
As for the perv who posed the question.. damn you need to get punched in the baby maker. 15 years old? 15 YEARS OLD?!! Are you kidding me?? You’re a child molestor. And yes please do take offense in that statement and change your ways.
wow i agree. he needs to be arrested. it is leagaly rape. And thats wrong. he needs to find a woman. not a girl.
Unless there are not having sex. Guess you cant get in trouble if you stay away from that.. right?
What about if I’m 23 years old and my bf is 46 years old??
I loved him but sometimes I feel that he just wants to have fun with me, he already has his own family, but he was the one who let me fall in love with him.
He LET you fall in love?? Girl you decided to do that all on your own. I doubt that he wouldn’t have told you at some point in time that this is all just fun in games. You seriously weren’t expecting that guy to leave his family for you, did you???????? Cause if you did you’re more naive and gullible than you should be at your age.
And what are you doing with a 46 year old anyway? Did your daddy not give you enough attention when you were growing up?? That is a recipe for disaster all on its own already. Even though we live in an era when we can mask our age my creams and BOTOX® and whatnot, our health catches up with us sooner or later. Not that he was super old but give it 15 years or so and he’s a heart attack waiting to happen.
Leave the lil girl alone! She has alot of homework to do anyway! Try dating some asain girl. AROUND YOUR AGE! they always look young anyway if thats what your into. I wonder what her parents think???
dude doesn’t matter. review decisions why u like her and find out if you’re on the same page with her. if you both love each other for good reasons nothing should go wrong. you’ll have to worry about friends, family, her family, and her wanting a younger boyfriend later. do what you want to do. if it doesn’t work move on. you’re never too young to understand what you want. or old. remember to review reasons why you love each other. it’ll be hard because her life will take on a diff path from yours in a few years in her own respective college. keep on trying I feel ya all the way.
ok, if I had read this article 6 months ago I would have called you a freak… ok 21 and 15 is a really bad bad number… but say 21 17 is not in my opinion… the way you worded your comment though makes me think you are a pompous asshole and will not treat this girl right! I am 19 and have been dating a girl who is 15 turning 16 for almost 6 months now and actually think that she may be the girl of my dreams, stupid I know but I think if it works it works… the sad thing is that you have to mean it, especially with a younger girl, but your 21… WHY are you not out in bars or clubs meeting girls your own age????
wow. your just as bad. your both perverts and i hope the cops arrest your asses and you get ass raped by a large inmate you sick fraks. Cant you find someone that isnt illeagle????? Frak both of you. You both know their dads will kill you if they ever find out right??! Dumbass
I am 20 i like a girl that turns 16 in a few months but before it goes anywhere as far as me and her going out then im going to get her parents concent her dad has already said yes and her mum is thinking about it. i have looked in to the law and all that normal stuff you should do and the only thing that makes it illegal is if the relationship is sexual and i have no thought of that happening. i know that she will change not just in looks but in personality as well and i accept that. she is really mature and we both have a common intrest which is where we became friends and got to know each other. I am educated and am currently in uni and she is at school and i do think there is a gap which is why i was hesitant. but it was her father that actually turned round to her and said about her going out with me.
i feel sorry for these guys that people are having a go at because of the relationship they are in. You guys have to remember that you cant help who you fall in love with or like however you want to put it.
lifes one of those paths no one understands why things happen they just happen. i have had 3 girlfriends so far. my first i met when i was younger then what she was and we only broke up earlier this year thats almost 5 years. my 2nd was long distance and the same age as me and my third was 17. the girl i currently like is 15 fine i can understand where some people are coming from with the age gap but she is as mature as someone my age. i have thought about it long and hard and i told her to think about it as well.
i spoke to a lot of my friends of different ages about it and they have all said go for it as long as we are happy then there is nothing wrong with it.
we are just waiting for her mum to decide on how she feels about it.
what do you guys think im guessing a few will not approve which is fine you are all entitled to your opinions.
SHES 15 FREAK. Give her a chance to grow up and mature a little.
You should be careful who you call a freak you mouth off about everyone on here that likes someone younger shes 16 now and we have been together for 3 months and its going great, i get on with her parents and we share a common interest which is where i met her in the first place. she is more mature then you are and probably a lot smarter too. I was hoping to get someone sensible comment on here.
LOL I know your feeling and if you read my post you’ll know my sentiments. I found the girl of my dreams, I just found her earlier then I should have and wont let go of that. With the bars and clubs question…. I prefer a quiet night, a glass of wine, and a good book or documentary.. Like I said, I wonder whether this whole thing is a different thing for nerds
@Mitsubishi
Some people prefer younger fresh meat. Most likely a virgin, havent been around the block, etc… Shes clean and pure.
But than again, doesnt matter what he prefers, theres issues with this guy.
I’m also 21 and dating a 15 year old. I do like my girls fresh, you wouldn’t understand until you tried it. I’m reserving the virgin (her) for when she’s old enough to get married.
I’ve dated older chicks and they are boring, serious, and want to right away get married. I want to have some fun first and I’m not ready for marriage yet! We have feelings for each other and will probably get married. I don’t care with you all think, so stop being jealous of me!
Wow dude. You guys are pretty messed up. Don’t you get it, she’s 15, a minor, she’s doesn’t think like a adult, she’s a kid. Plus by the time she will be ready to get married she will dump you and go for someone else because she will realize that your weird older guy that goes for little girls and can’t get anything else.
Which makes me think, what in the heck are the 15 year old girls thinking? They must be pretty F’d up too.
haaaaaaaaaaaaaa nigga please who’s jealous of you??!!! I love how you said “I do like my girls fresh, I’m reserving the virgin”. Which means what??! Hmm… you frak girls but yet the girl you are gonna marry with be a virgin? Double standard much??!!
I think what he’s saying is that he isn’t sleeping with her. He’s waiting for her to grow up.
I get that part.. he’s keeping her a virgin until he marries her and whatnot. But he made it sound like he goes around and takes other girls virginity but then wants a virgin for himself. If that makes any sense.
Well depending how the situation is and how you are with g/f’s i’d say it can be good or bad.. but then again seeing as how you just like younger girlfriendS – more than just one, i’ll say its bad.. I’ve only had one girlfriend and I met her when i was 16 and she was 13, now shes 17 and i’m 20 w00t w00t!
isnt 15 a little old?
16 and 13? good god who wants to be with a 13 year old! lol
I have a sister who’s 11, cant imagine her with a bf in 2 years!
But i was an early bloomer myself..12 *embarrased&
pedobear: Go jump into a burning furnace
My goodness. 12 year olds dating? i dont think you can actually call that dating because at that age you have no clue what dating is. Hopefully you didnt make out and have sex at that age. lol
So sweet of you to be concerned sir! I didnt get my first kiss until I was 20
My 12 year old bf experience consisted of him walking me to every class in junior high. Hanging out in our apartments and him walking me home at the end of the day. At the end of the night he would give me a hug and I thought that was such a huge deal! He was really sweet though =)
Ahhh that good old days of innocence. I would give anything to go back to those times
You are doing something wrong and that is from someone in the same position. I’m 21 and my girlfriend is just turning 16. I love her for whatever reason. In her I saw someone that I could be with regardless. She is beautiful, smart, and everything I could want. Granted, I’ve approached our relationship selfishly. She hangs out with my friends. In essence, I’ve forced her to grow up faster which I cant help but feel bad about. 2 years later I cant regret my decision. The law is made to prevent ppl like you. Me and my gf have had to deal with alot because of our difference but I am not willing to risk losing her over an arbitrary amount of time. If you dont feel the same then stop. Most girls are not ready for the commitment and it sounds like you are using her. Unless you are seriously invested in her well being then stop please. I love my girlfriend and its ppl like you that make them into objects that make my love illegal to the law. To those who would criticize me I have to say what I’ve been saying I love her. I dont consider myself immature and ive never met anyone that did. If anything, ppl consider her mature. The point is my interest is her interest. We are political, educated, literate, and have a sincere concern for eachothers developement as intellectuals. Maybe it is different when your a nerd? I donno but I do know that I followed my heart for once and two years later despite the odds and problems we have triumphed. We have agreed to postpone marriage until she has a college education though (my idea). Either way, you either feel it or you dont. Dont mess with emotion at the expense of others. It is not fair or right. If she is 15 and your 21 then you as I are taking a risk. You need to ask yourself whether that risk is worth taking. Whether your intentions are pure. Whether you are ready to commit yourself. I have my doubts about everything but I know I love her. Unless you can say the same then you are abusive. Then you belong in jail.
you need locked up… maybe try that show intervention on the A&E channel
LOL! Or get busted by: Dateline NBC – To Catch A Predator With Chris Hansen
Its sad that those that get busted — don’t learn.
I just came across the best episode from the show (Warning: Language).
He definitly needs the MAGNUM condoms (not wink face)
haha just kidding
maybe the stereotype is true
hella funny
Epic. Fail.
Ok, quite simply, what’s wrong is this:
21yr old male is technically an adult
15yr old is technically a child
Thus this makes you a paedophile
However, as we know girls often mature faster than boys, but still, you shouldn’t be messing with anyone under the age of 18.
I too am dating a girl who is 6 years younger than I am the diference is that I’m 57 and she is 51 that is not too bad by anyones account. I love her with all my hart and being. She is married. If we had met when I was 21 it would have been a bad thing?…….it’s still the same 6 years.
Yes.
As mentioned in the previous comments 0-17 year olds are considered minors/children. A girl at 17 is going to mentally be a different person at 19+. What is working out for you now, most likely wouldn’t have worked out if you would have been 21 and she 15.
Do you think its the same 6 years?
This was a complete waste of time reading. If they are in love, enjoying, caring, and they are generally ok, no one else should stick their nose in their relationship. My wife is 44, I’m 50 and I have loved her since I was 21 and she was 15.
Lassie, I have a few questions for you.
- Today, if you were 25 and had children would you let them (without you) visit the neighbors or even have a sleepover at their house? Would you have let them 25 years ago when you were 25?
- Are kids today smarter than kids 40 years ago?
- When you were in high school, how many pregnant teenagers did you know?
I’ve been looking over a lot of studies and statistics to make sure I’m not mistaken… A study in 2006 showed that 40% of teens in the USA have lost their virginity by the age of 14. Teens are having sex at an earlier age and pornography is freely and easily available to anyone.
What am I getting at? A lot has changed in the last 50 years. It’s as if innocents and trust has been lost. You can’t trust your neighbor, your weird uncle, and even a church pastor (can’t = it’s dangerous).
If a 21 year old guy (even if it’s my friend or relative) tells me that he’s in love with a 15 year old girl, I would strong encourage him to leave her alone. I see the 21 year old as a predator (because she’s an easy target) and the 15 year old as naive prey. In most cases, the parents will be also against them just as society. Fair or not fair, there are very good reason why 15 year olds are not an adults, why they can’t drive, smoke, drink, or get married.
The “we’re in love” defense is a joke. Being “in love” is lust and true love is a choice. If you (predictors of today) did choose to love her, then choose to love someone your own age. Many losers go for young girls because girls their age consider them a joke. Fix the problem instead of finding an alternative.
PS: Lassie, I’m glad that you are happily married. From 30 years ago until today is a life time of the evolution of society, culture, and technology.
Im 19 and have a 15 yr old gf, i sometimes feel that the age difference may be too far and sometimes feel awkward when in public. But i love her and we have so much in common im sure i want to spend the rest of my life with this girl… Shes far more mature and and smmarter than my last gf (same age) and i can be myself around her, laugh and just hang out. I wanted to know other peoples opinions on this…
Well Anon, i guess its noramly and good since your short, immature and act like a 15 year old and look like a 15 year old. No problem with that. just dont tell anyone your age.
On the other hand, if your around 15 year old girls enough, as in, your sister invites her freinds over or you do a little phone tap, than you will know that all they care about is looking good, smelling good, have something sexy to wear, have a cute purse and they have a crush on 10 million boys and they change their minds on who they like every time they pee. Out of all that, how the hell are they going to love someone if they have no clue what real love is? 15 year old girls are still afraid to get into trouble by her daddy if she doesnt finish her little scinece prject about dolls, when they somehow get out on a date, shes so nervous that shes gona get into trouble that she doesnt even think about you. And why do they take all those childish risks? So when the next time her and her girl freinds get together she will have something to brag about.
The next time they meet she will have big news, she broke up with “Anon” and cry a little for attention and so her freinds would “feel” her. Next time she makes a announcement that she has met this other guy. ETC… Get it? 15 Year old girls are stupid to a point and dont really have a brain yet. But than of coarse, your brain isnt probably fully developed too.
Good luck. My TIP, Get rid of her, wait a few years untill she grows up a little and than reconsider it.
Anon, in my opinion she is too young. I remember how big of difference 3 years was when I was 16 and a friend was 19. When I turned 20 and they were 23, all a sudden we were the same age — 3 years became nothing.
I am 16 will be 17 in two months and my boyfriend is 25 I love him and my parents r the ones who set me up with him cause we still arrange marriages for financial support and am getting married in 6 months I think even if u are 21 and she is 15 if u truly love her stay but if ur just keepin her for a piece of ass that’s just wrong. I still a virgin and so is my”25 year old” boyfriend and my family has not a single prob and we already have spoken with law officers its ont illegal as long as the parents ok it. Everyone else needs to just mind ur own bussines.
A 25 year old virgin?! Whats wrong with him?!
Post pics or we wont believe you!
Okay , in Iraq we have ppl getting married in the age of 12 years , one day I was told by a friend of mine who confessed to me that he was only 6 years younger than his daddy and I was like freaked! He said that his parents had to make fake marriage documents because the rules in Iraq allow ages of 18 and above to get married but there are lots of ways to go around the laws here , for instance you can go to a religious man (Sheikh) [You name him a minister] and he would marry you and write you a fake certificate.
When I was back then ruling the dam country , I used to execute those pervs but you know my boys also had some taste of fresh beauty so the rules were not equally enforced on all Iraqis.—well I had to keep them busy so that they don’t make me troubles , it’s like raising little kids.
anyway back to this perv here , listen to me son …first of all , do not destroy this little child’s future by your filthy nasty sexual needs , leave her alone…go bang an 18er or 19er who is not so serious as you say!
unless you do what I tell you ….I can make sure you get killed or stabbed by a knife. KABEESH? (I know this word from the Simpsons , so don’t ask me what the hell is it.)
As far as i know, Saddam Hussein has been executed allready. I seen the video myself. Which brings up the question, why would you be proud of Saddam Hussein and use his name?
“When I was back then ruling the dam country”. what country did you talk about anyways?
Saddam had over 30 clones…
And you know that how? lol
Im pretty sure they executed the right one. But, i guess who really knows cuz i did hear that he has look alikes.
Is there a way you can check saddams IP address? lol.
How do I know? It was in the news during the Iraq war.
If the real Saddam is alive, he wouldn’t be living in Iraq.
So basically they killed the wrong person? it was probably a setup. Probably the same reason why they cant find osams bin laden. Americans probably protecting them. lol
its funny how we as a culture love holding on to the past. we abide by the declaration of independence, magna carta, and bill of rights, which are hundreds of years old, and written when females were usually married at around 13. but the idea of being with someone based on actual merits and not age is wrong? face it, females mature alot quicker than guys. which of u brave souls is gonna tell god he shouldve have given females periods and hormones until 18. it wont b me
Now, if you were the father of this 13 (or 15 year old) girl… Is that your final answer?
Girls used to marry when they were 13 because life expectancy was a lot lower than it is now. With all of the advances in technology and medicine our life expectancy has significantly risen. Therefore, it is only natural that the marrying age should rise as well.
Where have you today met a MATURE 13 year old? One that can handle being a wife and a mother? One who can be self-sufficient? I think that we all would agree that any 13 year old would not be capable of that now days.
Hell there are even 18 year olds that are quite incapable of these things. I think parents baby their kids way too much [but thats a whole another topic].
What so wrong about having a girlfriend 6 years younger than you, why is it so sickning to you… I know something thats more disturbing my friends mum has a boyfriend 9 years younger than her! i dont see whats so bad bout this if you dont like it tuff they love eachother and that is what matters to themnot you and you cant choose there life and the person who said they are going to call$ the cops you have a fraked up head!
There is not issue if both parties involved are of legal age and consenting adults. However a 15 year old has not legal standing as far as consent is concerend. If the dude whats to wait 3 years and then take up the relationship that would be a different discussion.
Dont get it twisted
See, back in the days, when a 13 year old girls father got killed in war and mother died, they didnt have child services back than that would take care of her, no benefits, etc… So the only thing that 13 year old could do is learn how to survive and actually survive, or get married.
Things are different now days and you shouldnt be comparing them.
Here in the states and i alot of different places, they did enough research to set a legal age to do almost everyhting, its 18, im sure they have a resean for that.
And theres nothing wrong having a girlfreind that is 6 years younger than you as long as shes over 18. Even if shes 20 and the guy is 80, its still all cool, just because its “legal”.
Ok let me put this clear!!
I’ve read the whole thing, including comments and you know what, screw all of them saying you are a perv etc!!
Im 21 and my gf is 15. I went out with soooo many girls before, 19,21…27 yrs old and the youngest one was 17, till I met my current gf who is now 15.
It was hard, I had to hide it from everybody. Socially, I was seen as someone who has issues. Its against the law to have sex with a girl under the age of 16 here in the UK. I knew all of those things and the trouble it coudl lead me to.
She’s mature for her age but I know theres a lot for her to learn in life. Today is 7 months that we are together. Her parents know about it, even the whole family knows about my age. They all like me and so do my family.
Im happy with her, shes cool! Frak what people say, frak what they think, theres something we call Human Rights!!
If she was very very immature,then I wouldnt go out with her, but shes very mature as she always been growing up with adults. I help her in school, help her in everything. And theres one thing I know, I wont get her pregnant! Thats for sure!
Im happy, shes happy, its such a nice relationship, so frak all of you who are saying shit! People too weak to follow their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours!! Just dont get her pregnant and dont change her life, just help her growing up!
Dude, to be honest, i totally agree with you, theres nothing worng with you going out with the 15 year old cuz i think your not 21, you dont sound like a 21 year old, maybe its cuz you have the little man syndrom. But whatever…
When i read the first line of your comment, i was like, “there goes another perve” lol. I guess i was right.
And second, watch your language, this place is for kids too you know.
And how are you not supposed to change a girls life at 15 when just by seeing you its a life changing event. The other thing, if your not going to touch her for another 8 years, whats the point of dating?
Last question. Why wont you man up and go find someone your own age? Just curious, thats all.
you can be in a relationship without it being sexual i believe thats the very opposite of being a perv. also the law only states you cant have sexual experiences with girls under the age of 16, there is nothing stating that you can’t go out with them. me and my girlfriend was together 2 months before she turned 16 and she has been 16 for a month now im 20. Jayson if you are happy with her and she is happy with you go for it. take it slow and keep treating her the same as you already do you sound like a decent guy and paul you wasn’t right about him being a perve as you said your self his not going to touch her for 8 months.
good luck Jayson
Im back again!! My last post was in May!
Huh Paul, next week, its going to be a year that me n my gf has been together! And we still love each other just like the first day we fell crazy in love!!
I don’t care what people are saying, that’s my life and there’s one thing you should know…if you are in a situation like this and dont know what to do, just believe in yourself and in others!
Her family, friends, relatives, they all love me!
Never something like this has ever happened to me. I believed in myself, I asked myself 1000s of questions; ‘Is she worth it, will it last, is she mature enough..etc etc
I did asked people for advice and it came 50/50.
So I said to myself, let me give it a try before I come to a conclusion.
And voila, few days left until we celebrate of being a year together! And Im happy with my decision! I never met someone like her!
Anyway, for those who are wondering wether you should go for it or not, the answer wont be here!
Sorry got to go!! Im going to be late,today me n my gf are going on holiday for a week in Greece!!
Laters folks!
Lol tell u what, theres nothing about being a perve! U are telling me to find someone of my own age! I did before, loads dude! When I just turned 20, I was with a 24 yrs old, the youngest I’ve been with was 17 and that I was 19!
Now my current gf is 15 and guess what, 1st she doesnt look like it,2nd she doesnt even act like it. I hesitated many times before getting with her. I knew what was waiting for me if I get with her. I had friends making fun at me! But today, when they are asking me if im still with her and when I say ‘Yes,its been 7months now’ all I can hear is a dead silence. Because, their girlfriends have cheated or dumped them and they are at the same age.
So I came to the point where it remind me before I got with her! I spent time with her, finding out if she would do what all 15 years old do. I disgusted myself sometimes but today, I have to say it all depends on who you meet. If I break up with her, I will never go out with someone of her age! Definitely not.
I know if one day I become a dad and a 21 years old guy is trying to get with my 15 years old daughter, I would kick his ***!! I know its totally wrong but all depends on who you meet. Sometimes I ask myself ‘Why does her family accept and like me?’ In the end I got some answers back ‘He’s sweet, kind and he doesnt even look 21, we would give him 16-17!’
Regarding your last question, like I said, if something happens between me and her and if we end up by breaking up…etc I know for sure I will never get with someone of her age!!!
Well, if you like her and she likes you and everything is great than its all cool. i guess iw ont change your mind and no one else will on this blog. Who knows, maybe im wrong, maybe age has nothing to do with all of this, lol, maybe its real love.. Right?
All i can say now is have fun and enjoy.
What about a 20 year old with a 17 year old in new york state? and i will turn 21 before she turns 18 what then?
Nothing. I think as long as shes over 17 it doesnt really matter, shes almost done with school and has a small brain, not a 15 year old. Good luck.
I have a friend, who was really immature at his age of 23, and he got himself a girlfriend of almost 15 (yes, she was actually 14 then). Nine years has passed now and they are still nice coupple…
well i think that if u really feel for her that much u should ask her fathers permission first that might be ok i guess
Here Im back again! Few months have passed since Mr Paul was calling me a perve! lol
Yh, Im still with my gf! We are going on holidays soon!! Her dad has finally put his trust in me! And things are only getting better!!! =]
Yh Paul, its Love!
Well Jason, im really happy for you. What can i say. Even though deep inside you still think its wrong, but your making a exception and blaming it on love.
I do know a couple that got married when he was 21 and she was 15, they have 2 kids righ now and they couldnt be happier.
All i can say now is, good luck, hopefully it last forever.
P.S. Can you send us a picture of you two just for proof?
I really like this guy, he’s 21 and I’m 15, my sister has been dating his brother for more than two years now, I know his family and he knows mine, whenever were together people think we are dating even his father, I really like and I know he likes me too but he won’t show it cause he feels weird about age, I may be 15 but I know what I want and I’m not baby anymore even if I’m not an adult there are some decisions I can take, I wanted to know how could I let him know that its okay for him to like men those who think I’m wrong.. Whatever his a nice guy who cares if his 6 years older.. Age is but a number
Right on. If age is just a number, would you date a 40 year old guy?
At 15 you’re far from being an adult. Sure you can make some decisions such as what am I gooing to eat today? Which jeans should I wear to school? Other than that you’re not equipped to make major decisions and trust me dating a 21 year old guy at your age will be a MAJOR decision. If age is nothing but a number then you can wait a few more years and revisit this when you are 18. I think you’ll find by that time your thoughts will be different than they are now, and they will be even more so different at 21 and at 25. Thats not to say that this guy isn’t “the one”. He very well could be, but at the same time he might be the wrong fit for you. Let yourself enjoy your teenage years and experience them as you are meant to with people your age. All the other adult stuff will come later.
ummmm im 16 and have a 13 gf and its only a 3 year diff is that still k?
cuz we like each other and we r both waiting till we both turn 18
um, shes still a child you homo.
techniqally paul so is he
Im am in need of advice because I am in similar situation.
First of all I would like to say that BestFresh you are OBVIOUSLY some sot of pervert because you are obviousely using this girl purely for the sex and you need to be locked up!!
Now thats out of the way – my problem.
I am 21 and a virgin (and I intend to stay that way) and im in a relationship with a 15 year old girl. I admit that Im quite immature for my age and together we have alot of fun. We are both nieve when it comes to sex and we DO NOT intend on doing anything sexual with her. I love everything about her. But I need to know if it is ok for a 21 year old guy to have a NON SEXUAL relationship with a 15 year old girl?
Ever heard of statutory rape? That’s why people are giving you a hard time dumbass. you’re an adult and she’s under age. It doesn’t matter if she wants to be with you too, it’s still considered rape to even be with her. I’m 16 and I understand that but you’re 21 and you can’t? That’s kind of pathetic. Grow up. Or at least find somebody as immature as you that’s closer to your age. You’ll save yourself jail time.
I’m a 21 year old guy. I turn 22 in Nov. My girlfriend is 17, just turned 17. We have been dating for about three months, but have been talking for more like 7. We are taking the whole thing slowly, as in are not rushing into sex. Ive met her parents and most of her family. They are ok with us dating and such. I dont see anything wrong with this. She is more mature than my last girlfriend of two years, who was 21.
Ok, I read a few comments and I was just in awe and the arrogance and ignorance of the comments. If you are like the guy who started this e-fight, who LOOKS for people of that age when your already in your 20′s, then that is really not cool. But if it just happens by chance, 15 year old with a 19 year old whatever and you like each other for who you are then thats great and fine. A lot of 15 year old girls are ditzy and immature, but not all of them. If a young girl wants to root. She will root and you can’t stop that. They are better off in a relationship with someone mature who will look after them and actually cares about them. And keep in mind, women mature faster than men, and will naturally look for older guys did you think of that before you started screaming your tits off like the people from The Whoopi Goldbergs show? I’m 18, my girlfriend is 15. We have been dating for 16 months, when I met her I assumed she was the same age as me. She’s more mature than all of the girls I know from school, and shes smart. She is my world, and I make sure she makes the right choices with wanting to drink, and does well in school etc, etc. You need to be less concered with such trivial things as this and worry about your own, and more IMPORTANT matters that actually affect YOU. There’s so much shit going on and your having a go at the people who are actually genuine. And a big frak you to all of those people insulting these guys looking for advice you need a good punch in your self riteous puffed up head.
Hey dude don’t worry this thing happens all around the world as long you want to make a true relationship and you do truly love her everything is all right many people are in the same situation as you are.As long if its true love I think it should be ok. Because my friend is 19 dating a 14 and they are about to have there first kid and they could not be more happier.
Hi, I’m from the UK and the legal age is 16.
Until around a week ago i was in a very similar situation as Jason but not as big an age gap. I’m 17 and was with a 14 year old girl and have been since January this year. I truly fort it it was love, and I’m talking proper ‘true love’. She, as Jason said, is know where near as mature as you would expect a 14 year old to be, she shared the same goals in life as me and really wants to do well in life.
She claimed to want me to be her future husband and father to her children. I wanted the same, I’ve seen what she’s like with children, she’s great (especially for her age).
As Jason said, I helped her in life, with school work and any other problems she had with family etc. We did have our arguments as any couple does but was still lead to believe i was with the girl of my dreams.
Recently I read a chat log of her MSN to a lad ages 19. Basically, she chatted him up! I confronted her, she seemed to be sorry, promised to change, promised it was a one off spare of the moment thing because we had a fall out the day before.
I found out today, she went to meet this lad last night.. I’m heartbroken.. And i tell you one thing for a fact, I won’t make the mistake of dating an underage girl again. I still love her and finding it very hard to get over her. I do believe she loved me before anyone says she didn’t.. i just think she got board and wants a more exciting life.
Rigzz man, my heart friggin dropped when I heart that. That’s everyones worst frakin nightmare. I am really really really sorry to hear about that dude and I hope you get over it soon. Frak I like get all paranoid myself i’d fall apart if that happened to me.
Hope you meet someone better, and keep it together man, stay strong.
thanks a lot man
Hey Riggz, Im really sorry. Listen up, every girl is different. Underage or not underage, if a girl wants to go, she will go. I was dating this 22 years old chick before, she cheated on me, I been with a few girls who cheated on me! And trust me they were not underage, all over their 20′s.
I will be honest, sometimes Im worried too!! In a week, its going to be a year that I’ve been with my gf! My last post here was in May! And yeah, we are still together. To be honest, I dont know what will happen in the future! Is it going to last? I dont know, the future doesnt belong to me!! Just enjoy every single day!!!! I never knew I would have got with an 15 years old girl, never thought a single second that it would last that long!
Do you know that song ‘Girls just wanna have fun’ by Cindy Lauper?! She means it! Girls want only one thing in life, fun!!! If you want a girl to stay with you, kill the boredom and be the party boy!!! Believe me! If you make her laugh, smile, happy everyday, give me a reason why she should go elsewhere?!!
Riggz I know its hard, if she went to meet that guy who she has been flirting with, just walk away, I know its easy to say but do it man. Walk away without looking back. Let it go, if she wants you, she will come back to you.
In time you will learn from your mistakes and you will know how to deal with situations like this. Take my advice, you must be thinking about her every single second of every minute right now. Instead of doing this, go out with your friends, have a laugh, just keep yourself busy! Do that for a couple of weeks and you will feel better!
Unfortunately I really have to go now, I need to get ready. My gf and I are going on holiday for a week. Shes 15 im 21, its been a year, her family loves me and for those who called me a perv before, well what can i say, i living a happy life with my girl! =]
Laters folks and take care Riggz, if you need anything, leaving a comment, will try to hit you back!
Actually, most of you are just brainwashed idiots. In MOST other countries, women desire men 15-25 years older than them. BOYS simply do NOT know how to treat a woman. So it is NOT uncommon at all to see 17-18 year old women getting married to men that are 35-45 years old. Happens all the time. And it has NOTHING to do with the men wanting to dominate. It is usually that the man wants to care for the woman. Treat her like he knows a woman should be treated. And she loves the security that an older man can offer.
Just because you are stuck up in the thinking of morons in the USA, doesn't make you right. Jeez…it wasn't 100 years ago in this country that MOST women were married before they were 15, and most of the time, to men that were in their mid 20's to early 30's. If not older. My own great grandma was 15 and her husband was 28. And at that time, they thought she was too old to find a good husband!!!!
You can't tell a heart what an age limit is. That's just crap. I am 40 and very much in love with a girl that is 16. Her parents and I went to school together. My daughter and she are best friends. Never LOOKED to want her. It just happened. We are NOT doing anything illegal, and will not until she is 18… Her parents know how we feel, and know what type of person I am..so they are very happy that their daughter will have a great man who will treat her right and love her forever.
And yes, if an older man and my daughter wanted to be together, after a full background check on him, and getting to know him for a couple years…. I found him to be GREAT for her…hell yes I would approve. Beats having some loser end up with her…treat her like crap, and make their lives hell. I see that all the time with young guys. NOT so much with older men who have lived.
Like I said, in this country, people have such a crap view of what is right, wrong, or sick.. Worry about YOUR lives, and don't judge other people or their hearts or intentions. You don't know mine. You don't know these other guys. You have no right at all to judge anothers heart.
Oh, and the reason I can't stand women MY age??? Most of them are fat, look like they are over 70, and have NO desire at all to have fun anymore. (no, not all, I said MOST) I go dancing 2-3 times a week.. most women over 30 think that is for the younger cool people… whatever. I dance 20 year olds under the table…and can treat a girl way better than most 20 somethings… I travel all over the word, several times a year.. just because. Most women my age want no part of that. I see what it is like in other countries, and that's how I feel here.
So lastly, again, get over yourselves. Look back at your own family tree…guarantee go back 3 or 4 generations, and someone married when they were 13 or 14. 16 was considered old maid material back then. And don't judge what you have no knowledge of. Ie, someone's heart or intentions/reasons.
well going back to the post of is it wrong. . . well thats just FRAKED up. . . . u cant go running around with a girl that young. . . . 21 and 16 i mean holly shit. . . u really need to either take ur head out of your ass or get a glass stomach it IS rape and it IS illegal. . . im 17 and the youngest that i could even feel comfortable with dating is 15 but since my birthday is coming up im limited to who i can date. . . in my opinion once you turn 18 u dont frak around with other little girls you stick to your age after that. . . my stepdad was a SENIOR when my mom was just being born which i think is really fraked up. but the point of all of this is that i hope u do go to jail and i hope you get charged with rape . . . its messed up on so many levels . .. .and grow some confidence while your in the pin and look for a WOMAN not a little girl
am 22 and my gurl friend 16 …is that right or not?
definately not thats not right on so many levels
Um, dude, why u dating a child? Yes some girls might seem mature at 16, but we all know that are stupid, i can bet that you two will break up eventualy over the age difference. Migth as well do it now.
If its in the states he should be put in jail for being a pedophile. Different countries have different laws. If the guy was 18 and she was 16 it would be a different story but this is an adult dating a child. Its not 2 young adults dating each other.
What is with the witch hunt people? What I see is a bunch of idiots making a big deal over a few years of age.
the way i see it is if u arnot having sex with her why would it matter if the guy wants to go out with a 15 year old let him its his life he can do what he wants to do she aint going to be 15 all the time and at the age of 16 it is legal so what is the differance i dont understand how a 24 year old man would be aloud to go out with a 16 year old what the differance if she is 15 and he is 23 just the same if it 54 and 24 it aint up to any one else apart from them selfs soo what is all the bother about
ugh PEDO-ALERT.
I just find it hilarious…some of the comments here. First of all, a girl that's 15 or 16 isn't a child. Put it this way, if you say "Two Children having sex", say 10 year olds, that would be fraked up. But two 16 year olds? That's normal. 16 is the legal age in many countries, by the way. So then insert older guy into the equation – does the girl suddenly become a child? I'm not saying do anything illegal, sex can wait, but I don't see the problem with them being together.
By the way, I've met women in their 30's that are about as mature as six year olds. Are they children too? In my book they are. I've also met 16 year old girls that are smart, hard working, have great personalities, great taste in fashion, have travelled, carry themselves much better than many 20+ year old women I know.
Okay so it's an iffy area – but let's not get too caught up in the whole "OMG YOU'RE A CREEP" thing – because let's get real. Fun, interesting women in their 20's or older that are good looking are rare as shit. Keyword on interesting. I'm in college, and while I probably wouldn't date a 16 year old, I've certainly taken interest in them before, as any man has who speaks the truth. The truth is most people don't tell the truth, so this is why we have these frakin' problems.
Girls are fun in High School. Girls in college, not so much. You think they'd be fun, you know, they like to party, go clubbing, but it soon turns into a big ol' fashioned routine – where it's just clubbing, drinking, partying, nothing else going on there. They like to get together with their "Girlies" and take photos and comment each others facebooks and then live in their little flats and play "house", pretending like it's this reallll important thing and they're sooo mature…getting ready for marrage lyk omgggggggg.
High school girls on the other hand aren't allowed in clubs so they have to make their own fun. They're happy doing fun, adventurous things, random things. Okay okay – so SOME girls carry this wild energy with them as they get older, but how many? really not that many, any guy will tell you that's the truth.
Best idea, just get rich and date 18 year olds all the time. No wonder all the big shots and celebrities have young hot girlfriends. It's not just a mind complex with all celebrities – it's the damn truth in the male brain – any man who HAD those oppertunities, (ie being rich) would want young, hot girlfriends too. Not some fat, or as the girls like to say "curvy", boring girl hanging around all the time. No thanks.