I Let My Boyfriend Get Away With Everything
[ I Let My Boyfriend Get Away With Everything ]
My boyfriend recently left me. I have no idea how it happened… Things with us had gotten rocky and he kept saying that he sort of wanted to breakup but afterwards didn’t seem so sure about it. I later learned he had been seeing this girl behind my back for the last month. Now he’s dating her and I haven’t heard from him at all. I’m totally heartbroken and don’t even know how this happened. I don’t know what made him change his mind, but his sister told me after we broke up that he never settles down for long and isn’t exactly the nicest guy. I feel that things were going well… Maybe I freaked him out when I told him I loved him… I don’t know what to think… I swore he liked me but when we broke up he started trying to make excuses for himself for hurting me. Do you think I’ll ever hear from the guy again? I have no idea what happened. He told me that I was crazy and that I needed to go see the doctor because I got mad after we slept together and he said that he was crazy about me. The next day he said that he wanted to be just friends! HUH?!?!
- LOST FOR WHYS
Dear LOST FOR WHYS,
Why didn’t you push your boyfriends down the stairs when you first heard him utter “Baby, I think but I’m not sure, uuuuh I might — I think, I want want — maybe, to break up with you – but not sure! *Big Smile* *Uncomfortable Laughter* Baby, give me sugar!” Some might call that over reacting but trying to “run” off with another girl – in a wheelchair… he would find a bit difficult. What’s done is done and you can’t change the past. Of course if you really wanted to, you can still push him down the stairs but that will only make you feel a little better.
Here’s the truth, he used you and you should have seen it coming.
He spelled it out for you: I–s-o-r-t–o-f–w-a-n-t–t-o–b-r-e-a-k–up-w-i-t-h–y-o-u. You are probably young and missed all of the signs in your relationship telling you “In case of emergency, break glass, take high heel, shove up boyfriend’s ass, and dump boyfriend.” Your boyfriend’s relationship to you was parasitic, he received everything he desired, and eventually moved on to another host. Him getting everything he wanted and being “crazy” about you was an illusion to you of everything being okay. Isn’t it normal for couples to love each other and say “I love you” to each other? I can’t believe you took him back as long as things would be “okay” again.
You can do better than him and you should be glad that he walked out of your life now instead of years later after he consumed all of your young life. You probably would have continued being oblivious to his true self until he ended the relationship.
Your road to recovery:
- What is the goal of your relationship? If it’s marriage, then remove sex from the relationship. You need to be extra careful since you’ve already been burned.
- Background check, friend check, and mamma check your next boyfriend.
- Enjoy being single. Only one person can hurt you… You.
- Carry a brick in your purse.
- Make sure that all of your boyfriend candidates know that if they mess with you… They will hurt… A LOT!
- Work with your local governor to create a “Man Whore Alert.”
- Practice throwing and aiming your high heels.
There are many lessons that can be learned from your last relationship, I hope you do.