Comments on: My Girlfriend Cheated On Me… I Still Love Her http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/ Kip helps you answer all of those tough questions... with a pinch of soviet love! Sat, 21 Apr 2012 13:26:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Pratik http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1619 Pratik Fri, 02 Mar 2012 15:27:07 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1619 Hi, I was in relationship with a girl, when we started relationship, she was already in relationship with someone, but she told me that she had breakup. It was wonderful few months, but one day i found that she is still in relationship with her ex, and she was lying to me. I tried to breakup but she said she need one more chance to prove her self, i gave her one chance as i loved her, but again i found that she is in relationship with some other guys as well. I dont know, i want to breakup but i couldnt as i love her so much. She always make me feel that i am good for nothing, whenver i am with her i feel that i am not as good as her ex boyfriends. I dont want to live like this, but i am not able to get over her as well. What should i do? Please guide Hi,
I was in relationship with a girl, when we started relationship, she was already in relationship with someone, but she told me that she had breakup. It was wonderful few months, but one day i found that she is still in relationship with her ex, and she was lying to me. I tried to breakup but she said she need one more chance to prove her self, i gave her one chance as i loved her, but again i found that she is in relationship with some other guys as well. I dont know, i want to breakup but i couldnt as i love her so much. She always make me feel that i am good for nothing, whenver i am with her i feel that i am not as good as her ex boyfriends. I dont want to live like this, but i am not able to get over her as well. What should i do? Please guide

]]> By: Rock and a hard place http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1609 Rock and a hard place Mon, 02 Jan 2012 15:55:00 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1609 I need help with this situation. Ive had a thing with a girl for almost 2 years now. We arent officially dating because we both go to different colleges and her last ldr was a bad experienc for her. This past summer was awesome, we got along great and the L word was thrown around quite alot. Everything changed a few months ago though. She started ignoring me and blowing me off when i would come back into town claiming she was "busy", when in fact more times than not she would go out with her friends. I reluctantly havee tolerated all of this a few days ago when I found out that she has been hooking with other guys, at least one for sure. She never told me any of it, however i guess i cant really hold her accountable becausee we arent officially dating. So i bucked up and have been completely not contacting her at all for the past two days, even though shes only texted me twice since, no calls.     What can I do? I love this girl to death, I dont want to move on to others. Ive noticed in times past that she has become more attached to me when I have had things with other girls. So should I just act like I dont care and hope that she comes back again? I know that i should stop being a complete pushover and letting her walk all over me, but its easier said than done. I need help with this situation. Ive had a thing with a girl for almost 2 years now. We arent officially dating because we both go to different colleges and her last ldr was a bad experienc for her. This past summer was awesome, we got along great and the L word was thrown around quite alot. Everything changed a few months ago though. She started ignoring me and blowing me off when i would come back into town claiming she was "busy", when in fact more times than not she would go out with her friends. I reluctantly havee tolerated all of this a few days ago when I found out that she has been hooking with other guys, at least one for sure. She never told me any of it, however i guess i cant really hold her accountable becausee we arent officially dating. So i bucked up and have been completely not contacting her at all for the past two days, even though shes only texted me twice since, no calls.
    What can I do? I love this girl to death, I dont want to move on to others. Ive noticed in times past that she has become more attached to me when I have had things with other girls. So should I just act like I dont care and hope that she comes back again? I know that i should stop being a complete pushover and letting her walk all over me, but its easier said than done.

]]> By: missing her http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1596 missing her Thu, 15 Dec 2011 17:36:17 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1596 im in a similar situation to this. i just lost my fiancee because a guy i called a friend who i had known for 5 yr=ears stabbed me in the back by making her believe i didnt love her, trust her, or care. i fought every single day to make her happy, and for a long time we were. i love her still to this day. she told me she wanted a break, just for a few weeks. 2 days later she was with him. ive been devastated. i dont sleep, i barely eat. i feel empty. i know somewhere in her heart she still loves me. i warned her, along with like 12 other people, what a piece of shit this guy really is. he got a girl pregnant a year ago and made her put the baby up for adoption, the he belittled her to the point where she cut herself off from everyone. no one has seen her in months. i dont want that for the girl i love, but i cant impose a decision on her without risking losing her for good. she left me with mementos and belongings important to her, she didnt intend for things to happen like this. that prick destroyed my happiness to try and get his dick wet, after he spent weeks telling me how happy he was for meand her. he was trying to steal her that whole time. i confronted her on it and thats when it all fell apart. he told her exactly what i would do, and he promised her better things. hes a fraking couch surfer with no real home, but he has a talent to make people beleive what he says. idk what to do. i warned her, but its all in her hands. i want her back, but more importantly, i want her safe. i set her up with a place with another friend of mine, whom is both married AND trustable. he was gonna oversee the wedding ceremony. he promised to try and help her however he could, but i still fear that i may never get her back. idk how to accept that after all i sacrificed to be with her, money spent, bridges burned, my own family disowned me because i cared more for her. i just dont know. as bad as i wanna hurt him, as much as i wanna act on my feelings of hurt and rage and betrayal, i cant, or i really will lose her. this isnt an easy circumstance. a gf is one thing, ive been there, and usually i found that the healing comes when you arent looking for it, and it just stumbles into the picture. but how do you get over someone you planned to spend your life with, someone you allready dedicated yourself to? im in a similar situation to this. i just lost my fiancee because a guy i called a friend who i had known for 5 yr=ears stabbed me in the back by making her believe i didnt love her, trust her, or care. i fought every single day to make her happy, and for a long time we were. i love her still to this day. she told me she wanted a break, just for a few weeks. 2 days later she was with him. ive been devastated. i dont sleep, i barely eat. i feel empty. i know somewhere in her heart she still loves me. i warned her, along with like 12 other people, what a piece of shit this guy really is. he got a girl pregnant a year ago and made her put the baby up for adoption, the he belittled her to the point where she cut herself off from everyone. no one has seen her in months. i dont want that for the girl i love, but i cant impose a decision on her without risking losing her for good. she left me with mementos and belongings important to her, she didnt intend for things to happen like this. that prick destroyed my happiness to try and get his dick wet, after he spent weeks telling me how happy he was for meand her. he was trying to steal her that whole time. i confronted her on it and thats when it all fell apart. he told her exactly what i would do, and he promised her better things. hes a fraking couch surfer with no real home, but he has a talent to make people beleive what he says. idk what to do. i warned her, but its all in her hands. i want her back, but more importantly, i want her safe. i set her up with a place with another friend of mine, whom is both married AND trustable. he was gonna oversee the wedding ceremony. he promised to try and help her however he could, but i still fear that i may never get her back. idk how to accept that after all i sacrificed to be with her, money spent, bridges burned, my own family disowned me because i cared more for her. i just dont know. as bad as i wanna hurt him, as much as i wanna act on my feelings of hurt and rage and betrayal, i cant, or i really will lose her. this isnt an easy circumstance. a gf is one thing, ive been there, and usually i found that the healing comes when you arent looking for it, and it just stumbles into the picture. but how do you get over someone you planned to spend your life with, someone you allready dedicated yourself to?

]]> By: thugjitsu http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1594 thugjitsu Tue, 29 Nov 2011 21:41:18 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1594 my girlfriend cheated on me once. i got back together just so she could turn in this "lover" it took a few weeks for him to come a round. pretty evil.... but i finally set him up. he thought he was going to get lucky. instead he got slammed on his neck nose broken eyes swollen shut and told him you can keep her. i took her home and erased her from my life. i was the best guy she ever had. my girlfriend cheated on me once.
i got back together just so she could turn in this "lover"
it took a few weeks for him to come a round. pretty evil….
but i finally set him up.
he thought he was going to get lucky.

instead he got slammed on his neck nose broken
eyes swollen shut
and told him you can keep her.
i took her home and erased her from my life.
i was the best guy she ever had.

]]> By: James http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1593 James Tue, 29 Nov 2011 02:09:29 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1593     I was dating this girl for 8 years since i was 16 now i am 24.Long story short,we broke up because i was not the most respectful guy to her but i guess she stayed with me because she loved me .i was madly inlove with her and she was my best friend, i just had anger issues .when she left me i went to a doctor  for help to be a better guy because i wanted to show her that i love her and wanna spend the rest of my life with her. anyway she met a new guy that she worked with and seemed happy but she still called me and i always ran to her when she did like a fool.this went on for 2 years and just ended today because i found out that when we were younger she was having sex with my cousin who was very close to me.this all is very shocking to me.never thought she could do that to me ,i hear they did it for a whole year not just once..she denied it but i got hard proof from a close friend of hers and it all kinda makes sense to me now for some reason .anyway i still love her but shes dead to me and i will never speak to him or her again .my soul feels invaded   
 
I was dating this girl for 8 years since i was 16 now i am 24.Long story short,we broke up because i was not the most respectful guy to her but i guess she stayed with me because she loved me .i was madly inlove with her and she was my best friend, i just had anger issues .when she left me i went to a doctor  for help to be a better guy because i wanted to show her that i love her and wanna spend the rest of my life with her. anyway she met a new guy that she worked with and seemed happy but she still called me and i always ran to her when she did like a fool.this went on for 2 years and just ended today because i found out that when we were younger she was having sex with my cousin who was very close to me.this all is very shocking to me.never thought she could do that to me ,i hear they did it for a whole year not just once..she denied it but i got hard proof from a close friend of hers and it all kinda makes sense to me now for some reason .anyway i still love her but shes dead to me and i will never speak to him or her again .my soul feels invaded 

]]> By: Slim Shady http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1591 Slim Shady Thu, 17 Nov 2011 04:03:10 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1591 @saddam watevr da eff ur name is holy shit brah das me rite dere bombn dem with chemical gas and excuting her and her friends, family, street, but if u exicute evry1 she knows, wont that include u? and also man wats ur fone number? i mite need it... @saddam watevr da eff ur name is holy shit brah das me rite dere bombn dem with chemical gas and excuting her and her friends, family, street, but if u exicute evry1 she knows, wont that include u? and also man wats ur fone number? i mite need it…

]]> By: salmon http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1588 salmon Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:46:44 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1588 she cheated on vacation with a guy she was talking to on line introduced to her by another friend who worked in the same business we do we had been together for 12 plus years and i kept asking about this guy she said it was nothing but as i looked at messages i saw it building up to this. worst shit is she cheated and then said she does not want to be with me. i was am gutted. i begged for another chance to be a better person but on her twitter page is the guy she slept with and refuses to take him off her page. she says they dont speak but refuses to take him off her page so i have to read the tweets like i see you etc etc she says she wont take him off because he did nothing wrong it was our relationship that was bad. but before she left for vacation we had an arguement about me not spending enough time with her, she said that was apart of why she cheated. i have told her that if we are indeed trying to rebuild our relationship he has to be out of our lives and she said she wont remove just wont tweet anything or talk to him. before you guys say anything i know clearly that if she wont remove him despite my pleas of being in pain and how much it hurts me to see this person. i should move on. i know it i cant take his random messages, my only choice is to remove my self from this relationship. im so freakin hurt but i know what i must do.  she cheated on vacation with a guy she was talking to on line introduced to her by another friend who worked in the same business we do we had been together for 12 plus years and i kept asking about this guy she said it was nothing but as i looked at messages i saw it building up to this. worst shit is she cheated and then said she does not want to be with me. i was am gutted. i begged for another chance to be a better person but on her twitter page is the guy she slept with and refuses to take him off her page. she says they dont speak but refuses to take him off her page so i have to read the tweets like i see you etc etc she says she wont take him off because he did nothing wrong it was our relationship that was bad. but before she left for vacation we had an arguement about me not spending enough time with her, she said that was apart of why she cheated. i have told her that if we are indeed trying to rebuild our relationship he has to be out of our lives and she said she wont remove just wont tweet anything or talk to him. before you guys say anything i know clearly that if she wont remove him despite my pleas of being in pain and how much it hurts me to see this person. i should move on. i know it i cant take his random messages, my only choice is to remove my self from this relationship. im so freakin hurt but i know what i must do. 

]]> By: Brett http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1584 Brett Tue, 25 Oct 2011 00:26:21 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1584 I know this is old forum but i dont know what to do anymore, me and  my girl dated for over 2 years and broke up because we had a fight a big one over her i was being used and couldnt take it she told me she loved me and would till death due us part we did everything toghter and that day when we broke up i ddnt want to be despret i wanted her to want me so after about a month when i shoulda fixed it, one of my guy friends came up to me and asked me what i thought about him being with her at first i ddnt know what to say time later i found my self enraged i ended up putting him in the hospital, time after that she dated him for a few months during those months i dated a girl and realized what a bigmistake i was makeing i needed my girlfriend. we talked and she was mad at me , we seen eachother over a period of 7 months fought a few times and got over it, on friday night i got off work and went to her house to get her with flowers and was going to bring her to the spot we first kissed to make us offical again and start our new lives, she told me she had gone out i was devistaded so went home and said good night in the morning i was just about to text her good moring and i love you when i got a dreadful text saying its over i cant do this anymore all the fighting all of everything were done good bye it was a big mistake. she ddnt want to see me i convinced her to and later found out when she went out she had gotten drunk with her good friends and she ended up sleeping with him, i said you made a mistake tryed to be understanding but she wouldnt tell me if she wanted me i gave her a choice with me or without me. she chose without me and walked away without a slight look back. i was devistated i then went out and got hammerd  about soloutly hammerd to try and mask what had just happend in the morning i awoke to about 60 texts(roughly) she was telling me how big a mistake she made how much she needs me how much she loves me and said she was  going to come make it up to me see me and talk it out i was overcome with happyness i actually started to cry i waited and she never came, i called her worried to find out where she was she answerd from him bed.or coutch with him inside of her and simply said i choose him. i have been with her for 3 years and she traded that for one night with him she wants him and wont look back, i amdevistaded she is all i know all i am. she was the girl she is the girl i would do anything for her i will do anything for her, how can she do this why, It has been 4 days now i want to die that is the onlything that makes sence  she traded me for him it feels like im being told to breath but someone took the air away, when i was without her before i barely managed, i cant go back to that i dont know what to do she wants him, nothing with me. I can get many girls but i dont want any other girl. i want her shes what makes me , me. It sickens me but is true and hard to say but the only thing i have been able to do lately is try to think of how to make her miss me how to make her sorry and some of the answers i have come up with are cut my throat take my truck and hit a tree . i am so scared and dont know how much longer i can do this.  I know this is old forum but i dont know what to do anymore, me and  my girl dated for over 2 years and broke up because we had a fight a big one over her i was being used and couldnt take it she told me she loved me and would till death due us part we did everything toghter and that day when we broke up i ddnt want to be despret i wanted her to want me so after about a month when i shoulda fixed it, one of my guy friends came up to me and asked me what i thought about him being with her at first i ddnt know what to say time later i found my self enraged i ended up putting him in the hospital, time after that she dated him for a few months during those months i dated a girl and realized what a bigmistake i was makeing i needed my girlfriend. we talked and she was mad at me , we seen eachother over a period of 7 months fought a few times and got over it, on friday night i got off work and went to her house to get her with flowers and was going to bring her to the spot we first kissed to make us offical again and start our new lives, she told me she had gone out i was devistaded so went home and said good night in the morning i was just about to text her good moring and i love you when i got a dreadful text saying its over i cant do this anymore all the fighting all of everything were done good bye it was a big mistake. she ddnt want to see me i convinced her to and later found out when she went out she had gotten drunk with her good friends and she ended up sleeping with him, i said you made a mistake tryed to be understanding but she wouldnt tell me if she wanted me i gave her a choice with me or without me. she chose without me and walked away without a slight look back. i was devistated i then went out and got hammerd  about soloutly hammerd to try and mask what had just happend in the morning i awoke to about 60 texts(roughly) she was telling me how big a mistake she made how much she needs me how much she loves me and said she was  going to come make it up to me see me and talk it out i was overcome with happyness i actually started to cry i waited and she never came, i called her worried to find out where she was she answerd from him bed.or coutch with him inside of her and simply said i choose him. i have been with her for 3 years and she traded that for one night with him she wants him and wont look back, i amdevistaded she is all i know all i am. she was the girl she is the girl i would do anything for her i will do anything for her, how can she do this why, It has been 4 days now i want to die that is the onlything that makes sence  she traded me for him it feels like im being told to breath but someone took the air away, when i was without her before i barely managed, i cant go back to that i dont know what to do she wants him, nothing with me. I can get many girls but i dont want any other girl. i want her shes what makes me , me. It sickens me but is true and hard to say but the only thing i have been able to do lately is try to think of how to make her miss me how to make her sorry and some of the answers i have come up with are cut my throat take my truck and hit a tree . i am so scared and dont know how much longer i can do this. 

]]> By: Robert http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1576 Robert Fri, 09 Sep 2011 08:22:27 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1576 I honestly did agree with you brother,some people cheat other in a relationship for some reasons like been a very bad situation,been lonely not seeing their partners for years,been confused but some do it because they like sex which makes them feel good but note this my brother,every cheat deserve to be dump off because, no family will love to see his or her child hunging around with a poor prostitute who calles herself a God fearing and christian lady.lol.One should be used of controling him or herself and know how to live alone than been hurt and cheated.The better you open the door for the cheat to live your room the happier you will find yourself enoying yourself progressing with better dreams,goals and happy life stye living.   Imaging your gf living with you in your apartment for one good year cheating on you with alot of liers and even have the ordersity to sleep around with other men and especially her ex bf.How would you handle such situation if you were in my shoes?Will you leave the lady for good or still been in love with her dating? I honestly did agree with you brother,some people cheat other in a relationship for some reasons like been a very bad situation,been lonely not seeing their partners for years,been confused but some do it because they like sex which makes them feel good but note this my brother,every cheat deserve to be dump off because, no family will love to see his or her child hunging around with a poor prostitute who calles herself a God fearing and christian lady.lol.One should be used of controling him or herself and know how to live alone than been hurt and cheated.The better you open the door for the cheat to live your room the happier you will find yourself enoying yourself progressing with better dreams,goals and happy life stye living.
 

Imaging your gf living with you in your apartment for one good year cheating on you with alot of liers and even have the ordersity to sleep around with other men and especially her ex bf.How would you handle such situation if you were in my shoes?Will you leave the lady for good or still been in love with her dating?

]]> By: nick 2 http://kiptip.com/letters/dear-kip/03/31/2009/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-i-still-love-her/comment-page-1/#comment-1527 nick 2 Sun, 24 Oct 2010 09:51:01 +0000 http://kiptip.com/?p=1082#comment-1527 My girlfriend left me for a pussy. I don't get it. I don't have a small "weenie". The dude looks like a pile of sticks with a mop head. WTF? My little brother would own him in a fight. I can't be mad at the dude, cause if I hit him, I'd probably kill him on accident. Anyone else experienced this? Oh, plus we had a baby together and she is now uninterested in raising the child. She wants to use the child so people will feel sorry for her, like I cheated or something. I never abused her or anything. WTF? My girlfriend left me for a pussy. I don't get it. I don't have a small "weenie". The dude looks like a pile of sticks with a mop head. WTF? My little brother would own him in a fight. I can't be mad at the dude, cause if I hit him, I'd probably kill him on accident. Anyone else experienced this? Oh, plus we had a baby together and she is now uninterested in raising the child. She wants to use the child so people will feel sorry for her, like I cheated or something. I never abused her or anything. WTF?

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